Nod, my DT is not yet 80-- one of my last remaining alts-- and I am going heavy armour/full plate and sword+board for tank, heavy, sword+tali for DPS. I have not been pushing +magic damage, though + Crit is good for a DT regardless of VoM.
While I personally would have had no problem with becoming godlike at 80 , the DT as a normal heavy warrior seems to be ok for PvE and group instances so far.
I am guessing that most of the out-of-class crying was due to imbalance in Raids and PvP, since DTs as tanks could still pull off ridiculous DPS. Since I play almost every class in the game, I have seen a lot of differing viewpoints.
Balance is good; I just hope that they don't do a pendulum swing, as is all too common with "rebalancing" (when it's just a rotating nerf).
Also, if the new gear system comes in and DTs get decently itemized, that might solve the reason that VoM was ever put in, in the first place. A Heavy armour toon that needs to wear pajamas suggests bad-old-school-WoW-type problems with the class in the first place. (Druids wearing Priest gear, anyone? I did say old school. )